Problem is, you cannot selectively numb emotion."
Connection is why were here, its what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.
From the beginning of time, the human race has been founded on the principle of connection.
Ester Marie Doysabas
The origin of Adam and Eve, tribes, herds and packs.
Its those people that we form our first real connections with.
In order for connection to happen, we need ourselves to be seen.
Ester Marie Doysabas
Its only when we feel good about ourselves that we form positive, healthy relationships with others.
The one thing that keeps us out of connection is our fear that were not worthy of connection.
They were whole-hearted individuals who were courageous, compassionate, connected and vulnerable.
Have a sense of courage.
Essentially, courage is to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.
People who have the guts to acknowledge their imperfection form the most sincere bonds.
Its proof that in the darkest times, your loved ones feel like theyre not alone.
Dont fear connection, embrace it.
Brown correlates connection with authenticity.
They fully embraced vulnerability.
They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful.
They didnt talk about vulnerability making them comfortable, nor did they talk about it be excruciating..
They talked about it being necessary.
They talked about the willingness to say I love you first.
The willingness to do something where there are no guarantees.
The willingness to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out.
The crowd roared in laughter at the mention of the concept.
Problem is, you cannot selectively numb emotion.
You cant say heres the bad stuff.
Heres vulnerability, heres grief, heres shame, heres fear, heres disappointment.
I dont want to feel these.
Im going to have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin.
I dont want to feel these…It becomes a dangerous cycle.
Facing those things with with an open heart and mind is central to our growth as human beings.
Let go of the idea of perfection.
From a young age, perfection is something were taught is attainable if you try hard enough.
We idealize the concept of being perfect, but were almost never taught that its not realistic.
We perfect our children.
Theyre hardwired for struggle when they get here.
Thats not our job.
Show me a generation of kids raised like that and i think well end the problems we see today.
I will no longer continue to see vulnerability as my biggest weakness, but rather as my biggest strength.
Let ourselves be seen.
To love with our whole hearts even though theres no guarantee.
Believe that you are enough.
When we work from a place that says were enough, then we stop screaming and start listening.
Were kinder and gentler to the people around us and were kinder and gentler to ourselves.
Brene Brown
To watch Browns full TED Talk, clickhere.
