If you make me miserable, I’m cutting you out of my life.
It doesn’t matter who you are.
It matters how you make me feel.
SJ Objio
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Updated 6 months ago,November 14, 2024
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Im done remaining silent when someone says something hurtful or offensive.
Now that Im finally standing up for myself, it causes problems in my friendships and relationships.
Some people cant handle the change.
There are some people who I have outgrown.
If they do it once, I might give them another shot.
But if they repeat the behavior, then it doesnt matter if they sputter out an apology.
They clearly dont mean what theyre saying.
They clearly havent learned.
They clearly dont deserve a second of my time.
But theres a difference between a friend hating my favorite show and hating a group of people.
I dont have time for racists or misogynists or homophobes or transphobes.
I shouldnt have to explain why someones life is worthwhile.
I shouldnt have to push you to care about other people.
I dont hate you.
Im not trying to hurt you.
Im simply moving on from you.
I dont have enough time or energy to entertain people who arent all that important to me.
Im not going to let you make jokes at someone elses expense.
Im not going to let you get away with being an asshole.
Most of the time, people dont like getting called out when theyre wrong.
They dont actually want to grow or better themselves.
So when Im not cutting others out, theyre cutting me out.
I deserve to feel comfortable.Im not going to deal with someone who treats me disrespectfully.
Im not going to put myself through stress, just to seem polite.
If you make me miserable, Im cutting you out of my life.
It doesnt matter who you are.
It matters how you make me feel.
It happens naturally.Sometimes Im not actively trying to get rid of you.
I just forget to text you.
I forget to set plans with you.
Im so busy with my own life that you fade into the background.
Its nothing against you.
