Your expectations will break your heart more than anything else.
Be honest about what you want.
Both with the other personandyourself.
500 Days of Summer (2009) | IMDb
If you dont want casual, dont say youre cool with going with the flow.
In other words, she doesnt want a relationship.
(With him.)
Tom agrees and says thats cool with him.
Spoiler alert:It wasnt.
But Tom tries to convince himself otherwise all the same.
His friends look on skeptically, and theyre right to do so.
And this only becomes more and more apparent as the film goes on.
Because Tom doeswanta relationship; a relationshipwithSummer.
A full-fledged, committed relationship.
Spoiler alert two:It never happens.
On that note…
2.
If someone says they dont want a relationship,believethem.
She wanted to have fun, and Tom was fun!
In other words, he refused to believe what she was saying and ascribed alternate meanings to her words.
That maybe she just needed time to let her walls down and let him in.
Your expectations will break your heart more than anything else.
The two bonded, danced, and drank together.
It (almost) seemed as though things hadnt changed much.
They definitely hadnt for Tom, at least.
Some time in the future, Summer invites Tom to her apartment for a party.
Each shot in the segment shows this was not the case at all.
She fell in love with someone else.
Love wont save you.
The truth of the matter is love will not save you.
This is not to say it’s crucial that you be perfectly healed to find it, though.
Healing from heartbreak takes time.
Sometimes, alotof time.
And the process isnt linear either.
In fact,500 Days Of Summeris even filmed out of order to illustrate this.
Illusions will always disintegrate eventually.
Throughout the non-linear film, we are shown flashbacks of Toms perspective of his romance with Summer.
Initially, everything in his minds eye seems romantic and promising.
And there were plenty of signs that showed this.
As Toms Paul puts it about his partner, Robyn:
