What image comes to mind when you hear the word breadcrumbing?
I think of ducks in a pond.
Do you remember feeding them bits of stale bread?
Tim Mossholder
Of course you do.
We all did this as kids.
We all fed the ducks in hopes that theyd come near and we could be entertained by them.
Did those ducks ever complain about the stale bread?
Theyre ducks and ducks never complain.
c’mon dont let anyone treat you like a duck.
Dont take the stale bits of attention that someone is trying to feed you to keep you around.
They reach out, but not too much.
This is typical breadcrumber behavior.
Youll get a text here and there a few times a week.
A DM of a funny meme.
Theyll always be very charming and youll be enticed to respond.
The breadcrumber lives for these bouts of attention.
They disappear for a few days and start up conversations out of nowhere.
When the breadcrumber has gotten his or her fill, theyll disappear.
When theyre ready for more, theyll come back charming and engaging as ever.
They dont see anything inherently wrong with ignoring someone for days.
They flirt heavily one day, then go radio silence.
They will send you romantic songs and their text messages will resemble poetry.
Theyll lay on thick coats of compliments and promise you the moon and the stars.
Just as our lovely little breadcrumber gets dreamier, theyll abandon you for days.
When they resurface, you guessed it, theyll act like nothing ever happened.
Seeing as they showered you with so much love, you start thinking that perhaps this is it.
Perhaps theyll stop the annoying disappearing act that theyve adopted, but they wont.
Its best to not get your hopes up.
Breadcrumbers will always be that.
They make plans with you, but something always comes up.
They will make you get really excited about seeing them.
Theyll tell you their plan for this dream date and youll think about it for days.
On the day of, theyll come up with some crappy excuse.
A vague ailment, perhaps.
A meeting with a family member whom they havent seen in years.
It will always be something completely unavoidable that youd be a dick for getting mad about.
They take hours to respond to texts.
No one is that busy and no one just doesnt have their phone on them.
We need to retire those lies.
Its as simple as that.
When they dont need you, theyll make themselves very scarce.
They make you feel uneasy.
The breadcrumber will never make you feel like youre always wanted.
One day they are hot, the next day ice is warmer than how they treat you.
You know that you deserve more and your heart tells you that this isnt what you want.
Listen to your heart.
A new relationship should be fun and full of wonder, never discomfort.
They instantaneously fix themselves when they feel like theyre losing you.
The breadcrumber knows that eventually youll catch on, but the thing is that they like your attention.
They will suddenly be down for IRL plans.
