Happy couples are like a little islands unto themselves.
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Updated 7 years ago,December 12, 2017
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A healthy relationship needs good communication.
Really, there is nothing more important for a healthy relationship thangood communication.
It is important that we tell our partners when they arent making us feel good.
It is important that we tell our partners that they are important to us.
It is important that we tell our partners how much we love them.
They are scared of making themselves vulnerable and afraid of the outcome.
She said she was just going to give a shot to find interests of her own.
Josh Peterson
I suggested that she tell him she was worried that the results of their hard work was slipping away.
Be honest with him about how she was feeling.
She did and he got it and they made a plan for time together this weekend.
A healthy relationship needs just the right amount of sex.
Every happy couple has asex life that suits them.
There is no exact formula for how much sex a couple must have to be happy.
That worked for both of them and they are happy.
So tick this one off of your list.
Sounds fun, right?
A healthy relationship needs some inside jokes.
How can that be?
That is such a little thing.
You and your spouse are at a family BBQ.
Tensions are flying over something.
You meet eyes as the statement is made and you just connect.
You smile and nod and go on with the day with a warm feeling in your tummy.
Connection is what real love is about.
And having a secret is super fun.
So having an inside joke, a combination of the two, cant be beat for keeping couples close.
A healthy relationship means keeping promises.
They are usually made with such good intentions but when they are broken there can be disastrous consequences.
Promises have to do with trust.
If you make a promise and dont keep it then trust is lost.
Its better to not make a promise that you cant keep then continue to break ones that you do.
I have a client whose boyfriend kept promising her that she could meet his kids.
And yet every time a meeting was set up there was always an excuse about why it couldnt happen.
Her trust in him had been lost.
And without trust what is there?
Make your promises carefully.
Remember how important they are for maintaining trust.
A healthy relationship means not taking each other for granted.
Let me state that one again.Dont take anyone for granted.
When we first fall in love our attention is completely focused on that one person.
And the consequences can again be disastrous.
This I can tell you from personal experience.
And, guess what.
So pay attention to that person in bed next to you.
One day they just might be gone and where would you be then?
A healthy relationship needs quality time and shared interests.
Yes, we are all busy, with lots on our mind and all sorts of pressures.
But it is important that you take the time to have quality time with your partner.
Time that is spent together doing things that you both love.
In my marriage we divided and conquered.
My ex-husband worked hard and I took care of the kids.
Any free time we had we spent focused on the family.
We had nothing left that was just us.
So find something that you both like to do together and do it.
Dont let that love slip away in the hustle and bustle of life.
A healthy relationship means making your partner a priority.
Yes, yes, I know.
There are so many important things in our lives these days.
Making money is one of the first that comes to mind.
Making sure our children grow into successful adults is another.
And then there is exercise.
And all of these are important.
So make your partner your priority.
Work is important but so is getting home for date night.
That Saturday morning 15 mile run?
Go for it but if you could instead spend the morning alone with your spouse, consider it.
A movie night with the girls?
Bring your husband instead.
Consider all the good that could come from making your spouse a priority.
Connection, laughter, physical affection, good will, sex, happiness.
No truer words have ever been spoken.
That we do what needs to be done to keep a healthy relationship healthy.
