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Updated 6 years ago,May 2, 2019
Are you struggling over and over with bad relationships?
What kind of lessons?
Let me tell you…
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Sarah Cervantes
What red flags look like.
If you are not familiar with the term red flags, let me explain.
Red flags are signals that there is something bad ahead.
Sometimes they are clear and sometimes they are not.
Oftentimes we ignore them.
And when we do, disasters happen.
What might a red flag look like?
Perhaps he talks about his ex a lot, or he has a bad relationship with his mother.
Perhaps he hasnt been able to hold down a job.
Perhaps he refuses to talk about anything difficult.
Some are more obvious.
Perhaps he states that he doesnt want a serious relationship.
Perhaps he tells you that that male friend of yours has to go.
The thing about red flags is that often we see them and ignore them or justify them away.
What not to do.
One lesson you could learn from bad relationships is what NOT to do next time.
Many people tend to personalize things that happen in a relationship.
If our significant other comes home late, its because they dont love us.
If they dont put away their dirty laundry, they dont respect us.
If they forget our birthday, its because we just arent important to them.
So, dont take things personally its not all about you.
Another thing that people tend to do in bad relationships is being passive aggressive and antagonizing.
These are just two behaviors that derail many relationships.
Figure out what yours are and make note.
That enabling is not supporting.
Have you ever been in a relationship that was struggling and you tried to save it by being supportive?
Many of us believe that if we can just support our person, the relationship will hold.
That maybe their troubling behaviors will change.
Unfortunately, this supporting is really more enabling, and enabling is not good in any relationship.
And if your partners think their behaviors are okay, they will never change.
If your partner has behaviors that make you unhappy, stop supporting them.
Either speak up about them or walk.
What traits you do want in a partner.
I loved him but I was suffering.
I was very clear about that and did ultimately find what I was seeking.
So, what do you want in a partner?
Refer to it often.
That letting go is not giving up.
That they arent quitters.
Its not giving up if your partner isnt giving their all as well.
So, if you are struggling with giving up, dont!
How strong you are.
That being alone is better than being unhappy.
There is nothing worse than the day in, day out suffering of being in a bad relationship.
you’re free to do what you want.
Learning lessons from bad relationships is a key part of finding love and happiness.
The goal is to learn from our mistakes and move forward to find success in the future.
you’re free to do it!
True love is out there waiting for you!
