Truth is, doing whats “best” is not always doing whats best for YOU.
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Updated 7 years ago,December 27, 2017
Its that time of the year again.
Its the last month before 2018 and new year new me spirit is in the air.
Resa Cahya
This year has been the year of hustle, transition, and new beginnings for me.
Here are 8 lessons I learned in 2017:
1.
If youre scared to do something, you better do it.
I went on a month long retreat to Costa Rica with 10 girls I had never met.
I remember being hesitant and judging myself like crazy before going.
The retreat was one of the most transformational months of my life.
Resa Cahya
Beyond fear exists massive self growth, so always opt in when youre scared.
Pain is not meant to be subdued.
Pain is meant to be accepted and understood.
Eventually this pain built up and I exploded in tears one day.
Instead of denying my tears, I welcomed them and accepted the heavy feelings.
I felt liberated and shifted the way I experienced pain moving forward.
Understand what your pain means and youll be less afraid to welcome it.
Dont chase numbers chase feelings.
I took my fitness and wellness to new heights this year.
Yes, I calorie-counted and measured every meal to verify I wasnt going overboard.
Ill tell you that is NOT what transformed my fitness.
If you dont believe in your cause, no one ever will.
I launched a week long summit dedicated to helping men and women get over their heartbreaks.
Looking back, it would have performed better if I believed in it.
I had nights where I woke up and questioned if my summit was actually helping people with their breakups.
When I spoke to people about this summit, there was so much positive feedback.
Nevertheless I continued to have wavering belief.
You are the biggest horse it’s possible for you to bet on.
Believe in yourself, or no one else will.
Youre the average of the five people you surround yourself with.
Books and podcasts count as people.
I needed refreshing perspectives so I could reset my own.
I started reading self help books and listening to podcasts before and after work.
Books and podcasts can count as people when you dont have the right people to talk to immediately.
Rejection is rough but not knowing is brutal.
Even if they dont, now you know :)
7.
Always question what is best for you.
My parents always wanted what was best for me.
The truth is, these things werent best for ME.
It was what society dubbed best.
I was told it was best for me to chase a career with math or science.
I was told the best time for me to get married is my mid 20s.
I was told its best not to go against what my elderly say.
As I grow older, I question the advice society gives me.
Truth is, doing whats best is not always doing whats best for YOU.
Side hustle is better than no hustle.
4 years ago I gave up writing because my writing job wasnt paying me enough.
The job paid me well, so I stayed.
I used the money I earned and invested in becoming my best self.
Side hustle is better than no hustle.
