If you are being manipulated, you might begin to second guess yourself, without even realizing why.
Here are some tell-tale signs that your boyfriend is micro-manipulating you:
1.
He controls your decisions.
Riccardo Fissore
There is a fine line between making decisions together and having your decisions made for you.
The loss of important relationships is not worth the price of an abusive relationship.
He makes you feel incompetent.
They might say things like, What would you have done without me?
or use intimidation, guilt, or even threats against you so that you second guess yourself.
You may affect someones mood, but that doesnt make you responsible for it.
Riccardo Fissore
I am telling you, there is nothing you could do differently.
You are simply being manipulated into thinking you are the cause for someone elses grief when you are not.
He points out your weaknesses and uses them against you.
Manipulative people have a super power where they are able to detect every single one of your weaknesses.
And not only that, but they get high off the idea of controlling you with them.
He asks you to give up something to get to serve his own best interests.
You want to go hang out with your family on the holidays?
You want to take a vacation with your friends to get away for a while?
You want to move because its a big step in your career?
No conversation will be had.
Thats not the same thing.
He has difficulty handling emotions.
There is no harm in feeling sorry for yourself every so often.
We are all human, and sometimes we need a break.
He makes you question your own sanity.
We ALL question ourselves.
It is normal to reflect and wonder if we are making good decisions and doing what is right.
Manipulative people dont do that.
They never take a look at themselves.
And if you let them, they will cause you to second guess every single thing you believe in.
This is NOT what real love looks like, regardless of what youve been told.
Real love is accepting, forgiving, and makes you feel complete on your own.
