That’s usually a sign that the connection that once brought you two together is no longer there.
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Updated 4 years ago,June 22, 2021
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Thats usually a sign that the connection that once brought you two together is no longer there.
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You have a higher tolerance for their bullshit because they are familiar and they feel safe.
But the false sense of comfort and safety that comes with familiarity isnt enough.
Familiarity isnt a foundation off of which anything worthy is built.
They give a shot to buffer their abusive behavior toward you by calling you family.
Calling each other family does not mean you are obligated to have a higher tolerance for their abusive behaviors.
it’s possible for you to still cut each other off when you become toxic to each other.
In some cases,familyis just another word forbullshit.
Everything is one-sided.They dont hear you.
As soon as the conversation stops being about them, they stop responding or listening.
You wonder if their lack of effort is a reflection of you not doing enough.
So, you force yourself to overcompensate for their shortcomings.
You initiate the conversations and plans.
You force yourself to stay for certain calculated amounts of time to be polite.
You hope the feelings of having to force everything will pass.
When you go through phases of not talking to them, you dont really even miss them.
You actually feel lighter during periods of non-communication.
You feel drained after hanging out with or talking to them.
They arent healthy for you anymore.
You are no longer benefitting from the friendship.
All it is doing is sucking you dry.
Even when we dont agree with the directions or angles in which they grow.
They arent the kind of person who we would invite into our circle at this stage in our life.
Its time to let them go.
