Express your needs clearly and calmly.
The most common theme that emerged was a wound in the father-daughter relationship.
The following are steps to facilitate healing:
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Be patient and adopt realistic expectations of your father.Give up the dream of a perfect relationship with him.
After all, it may take time to reconnect after being distant for some time.
Accept that tension may exist between you and can be worked through in most cases.
Listen to your fathers side of the story and attempt to keep an open mind.
Keep in mind that any healthy relationship evolves and is a journey of self-discovery and mutual understanding.
Explore your intentions and desires.What do you think a relationship with your father should look like?
Is it realistic for him to make up for what you lacked in the past?
It may take several requests before you’ve got the option to come to an agreement.
Writing in a journal may help you with this process.
Create healthy boundaries.Its not necessary to dredge up past hurt every time you see your father.
Since you cant change the past, you may be better off focusing on the present and future.
This does not mean that you condone his hurtful actions.
You are just not giving them the same power over you.
make a run at be understanding and accept that we all have flaws.
For example, Dad, I release you from not being active in my life after your divorce.
I dont know why you werent there.
Im okay with not knowing.
This statement can be sent in a letter or kept private.
It can be therapeutic to talk to a trusted friend or therapist about your disappointment.
