I assumed our friendship was only the first step toward a long, fulfilling, committed relationship.
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Updated 2 months ago,March 4, 2025
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Admiration.I wanted to be wanted.
Jayson Hinrichsen
I would get a boost of confidence and automatically feel better about myself.
I assumed our friendship was only the first step toward a long, fulfilling, committed relationship.
I assumed this meant we were destined to be together.
I assumed this was what blossoming love was supposed to feel like.
At the time, I didnt realize thatobsessionandloveare not necessarily linked together.
They can be two completely separate things.
Nervousness.Like Halsey has said: The warning signs can feel like theyre butterflies.
Not because I wanted to be with the person.
Because I wanted to impress that person.
Because I thought their opinion mattered.
Because I thought it was what I was supposed to feel while looking at them.
I like ego boosts.
Its part of being human.
In the past, I didnt care where the attention came from.
I would be grateful to get any at all.
I took whatever I could get.
However, theres a difference between wanting attention in general and wanting it to come from one specific person.
However, thats not always the case.
Sometimes, Im simply jealous of their happiness.
Or jealous of the fact their attention is off of me.
Jealousy doesnt always have to do with love.
Constant arguments arent a sign of attraction.
If anything, theyre a sign of incompatibility.
They mean youre not meant to be together.
Youre meant to stay far, far apart.
On-paper chemistry.There were certain qualities I was searching for in a partner.
If someone matched the description, then I assumed we would be a great fit.
You could be a perfect match on paper but make absolutely no sense in real life.
