Luckily things can change and do.
Here are eight of them.
Sometimes you wish you all got along better earlier on in your life.
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And you feel grateful you still have time to make more loving memories with them.
In fact, you see how important it is to do so now since everyone is only getting older.
You find you have more in common than you thought.
You also discover your parents have already been where youre at.
At one point, they too were the scared, awkward 20-something with no sense of direction.
But they figured it out.
This gives you faith that you will too.
After all, you are your parents child.
You get that they had their own pain, trauma, and experiences that affected the way they parented.
You forgive them for anything they did to hurt you because you know that this wasnt their intention.
At the same time, you also forgive yourself.
You know you could be a difficult and unruly child (and even more so as a teenager).
You know you did your best with the tools and maturity level you had.
You let it go.
You see their humanity and love them more for it.
In forgiving your parents, you allow them to be human.
You see their humanity and realize you love them more for it.
These are the things that help make us who we are.
You realize how young they truly were when you were growing up.
As you get closer to the age they had you at (or maybe youve already passed it!
), you realize howyoungyour parents truly were when they had you.
The amount of stress that was probably caused couldnt have been easy and you admire them for it.
And they thoughtfully consider what you have to say and even do what it is you suggest.
You start to see pieces of them in your adult self.
You feel lucky that some pieces of them rubbed off on you.
While you definitely loved your parents growing up, the adoration you have for them now is different.
Instead, you need them because of who they are.
You dont love them because you feel like you have to as your caregiver.
You love them for the wonderfully imperfect, beautiful, caring, human beings they are.
They didnt always get it right but they always did their best.
And you realize thats all you’re free to ask for from anyone.
