Many relationships fail because we have higher expectations of others than we do of ourselves.
The secrets of successful relationships do contain magic, but not the unattainable, fairy tale kind.
In both scenarios, the balance has been tipped out of whack.
@lynne.colette
Curiosity is Key
Imagine how relationships tend to be in the first year of dating.
Now fast forward a few years.
Are you still playing?
Do you still hold hands, kiss and hug for the sheer delight of it?
Do you still speak to each other with respect and kindness?
The reason why the first year is so fantastic, is that were fascinated with each other.
@lynne.colette
All because theyve put their partner in a box that says, mine.
Its totally impossible to keep another person, no matter how hard you may make a run at.
Successful couples are separate individuals, on a journey together.
After all, you dont want to be that girl going out with the strange orange jeans guy.
Leave the opinions of others, and even your own unnecessary prejudices, out of your relationship.
Dont make the mistake of trying to change your partner to fit into your world.
And besides, his love for orange jeans is not, actually, any of your business.
Thered be no threat of it, because the decision would already be made.
The difference with couples in successful relationships, is that they aim to fight fair at all times.
Fighting fair means leaving out emotional manipulation and selfish attempts to obtain power over one another.
Connecting is Everything
Remember when the whole world disappeared when you first fell in love?
Connection is what brings you together, not a sense of ownership, belonging or even security.
None of us were born to spend our lives trying to fit into someone elses.
Were human beings, not human twosomes.
If you think like this, youre missing the entire point of relationships.
