Anyone that asks you to cut ties with those closest to you is trying to control your life.
My advice: run.
You both have your own thoughts, beliefs, backgrounds, and past experiences.
Anastasia Mya
Merging those into one, cohesive relationship comes with some work.
In my current relationship, things just work.
We have the same end goals in life, we communicate well.
But thats a far cry from my past relationships.
I compromised everything from seeing my friends to my values.
I even once agreed to a casual relationship, even though thats far from what I was comfortable with.
Flexibility is essential in a relationship, but only to a certain extent.
Big Life Decisions
These include things like marriage and kids.
So dont settle for a relationship where your views differ on big life decisions.
Theres someone out there thats going to align with you on these choices.
Your Hobbies/Passions
Do not stop doing the things you love just because your partner isnt into them.
Thats even more of a reason to do them because it fosters your sense of identity outside the relationship.
If you and your partner have different interests, thats perfectly ok.
Both of you are entitled to alone time and doing what makes you happy.
Youre going to be better off if you both stick to this.
Your Physical And Mental Health
Your partner should care about both your physical and mental health.
This includes any sexual endeavors you both partake in.
You should never feel pressured to do anything that you dont want to.
This also includes your mental sanity.
If your partner is manipulative or constantly toying with your emotions, then youre compromising your mental health.
No relationship is worth compromising either of these.
Your Culture
I come from an upbringing thats pretty void of any culture.
But thats something I always felt I missed out on.
If your family has a rich cultural background and traditions, by all means, you should continue them.
Your sense of identity is vital in the relationship.
Continuing to do things that make you feel like yourself is important.
Your partner should also love all the things that make you unique, your culture included.
Your Goals
Whether they be personal or professional.
Your goals are important to maintain; they give you something to work towards.
A relationship is all about supporting one another in whatever our goals may be.
If youve dreamed of starting a business or writing a book, these are important to keep pursuing.
Whatever your life goals are, know that they arent up for compromise in your relationship.
Your Idea Of Fun
Sometimes, youll spend a night doing what your partner loves.
The other nights, you should spend doing what you love.
Self-love is key to a thriving relationship.
How can you show love for others when you cant even show it to yourself?
A loving partner will adore your unique quirks.
Theyll make you feel comfortable being your authentic self with them.
You wont have to feel like you should probably put on a show.
I know finding a partner can seem daunting, and being alone is scary.
But dont let these fears allow you to compromise what really matters.
Your compromise will eventually turn to resent, towards your partner and yourself.
A healthy relationship is one where you’ve got the option to enjoy being you.
