Vulnerability and love go hand in hand.
One doesnt exist without the other.
Your willingness to show some level of vulnerability makes your relationship more transparent and real.
I tend to overthink things.
Then something strange happened.
Yes, its probably odd to hear that from a relationship coach.
It might be a little dramatic to say that courting is eradicated.
In fact it can be more difficult to connect and find love.
As a relationship coach, I see this happening to the best of the best.
People who are attractive, funny, and successful dont have added advantages in love.
Heres eight tips that might help you:
1.
Stop doubting who you are as a person.I know its tough.
Heres my two cents about that thought.
you should probably do some reassessing and figure out how you’re able to become a better partner.
Instead, focus on what qualities are important and non-negotiable to you.
Yet, we do it a lot.
Here are some examples:
He didnt call me.
That means he doesnt care about me.
She didnt figure out what would make me happy on my birthday.
She doesnt know me or care about what is important to you.
The sex between us is subpar.
He is just so selfish in bed.
These assumptions are just that, assumptions.
Want to get clear on who someone is and what they are feeling or thinking?
Instead, ask them the question as to why they are doing a particular action.
Their answers may surprise you.
Often, we are in our heads too much.
And that is great!
Relationships thrive on teamwork, compromise, more compromise, and a constant balancing between two people.
Ina relationship, you are tested daily on your ability to balance your priorities with your partner.
And this is where I would say the following, Learn to do things for you and your benefit.
Love who you are and where you are whether you are single or not.
Being single is a great time to grow, focus, and build yourself up.
And this is my opinion on this topic.
No one can complete you.
But, they can compliment you.
While having someone in your life can temporarily make you feel complete, the feeling is fleeting and short-lived.
You have to feel complete within yourself first.
Being complete with yourself is a permanent feeling.
No one should or can take away this feeling from you.
Refer to number 4 listed above and learn to enjoy who you are and embrace yourself fully.
And that is what makes a dynamic relationship.
Leave that relationship quickly.
Let me explain further.
I was guilty many times out of protecting my heart.
I would challenge men needlessly because I didnt want to appear vulnerable.
Well discuss that more about that topic in the next tip.
Now, on to our next lesson: vulnerability.
8.The power of vulnerability in a relationship.Vulnerability and love go hand in hand.
One doesnt exist without the other.
Your willingness to show some level of vulnerability makes your relationship more transparent and real.
Talk about wearing your feelings on your sleeve.
This is the big V. For more on vulnerability as it relates to relationships, read thisarticle.
But, guess what, when you are vulnerable it shows you are real and have depth.
Think about your friendships.
When did those friendships become more solidified?
Those moments are what cement true friendships.
And they do the same in relationships.
These real moments create more solid and longer-standing relationships.
As I said, I almost gave up on love.
But, it came when I least expected it.
My partner compliments me.
Love is available to you too.
