Gain self-awareness about your choices in partners and their willingness to meet your emotional and personal needs.
Perhaps youve bought into the irrational belief that you cant do anything to break this unfortunate pattern.
Or yourfear of being singleis unbearable.
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Maybe he or she is so stunning you cant believe your good fortune to have their attention or affection.
Here are 8 ways to stop settling for less than you deserve in a relationship:
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Gain self-awarenessabout your choices in partners and their willingness to meet your emotional and personal needs.
Counseling, reading, and blogging can help you with this.
Set an expectation of mutual respect.Look for friends and partners who admire and respect you for who you are.
Dont compromise your values.Figure out your core beliefs and stand by them.
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Ask for what you need and speak up when something bothers you.
Be more assertive (not aggressive) by stating your needs in a positive way.
When someone is interested in a relationship, they keep their agreements.
Look for consistency between someones words and actions.
Dont waste your time on a relationship that doesnt have a future.
If he or she says they arent ready for a commitment, take them seriously!
For instance, if you worry about being alone forever, try telling yourself This is just a feeling.
It doesnt mean its true.
I can enjoy my own company and follow my passions.
Underneath all of these rationalizations is a deep seated fear of being alone.
Facing your fear of being alone is the first step in moving forward.
The good news is that this pattern, which often begins in childhood, can be reversed.
One of the key things to consider is: how do you treat yourself?
No one will treat you with respect if you devalue yourself.
At times, this meant missing out on opportunities for social events or advancement in her career.
He didnt appreciate me and was unwilling to plan a future with me.
Letting go of a relationship that is all wrong for you is never easy.
Its possible to end romantic relationships that are self-destructive, abusive, or wrong for you.
Unless you have self-acceptance and self-love, you cannot believe you are worth loving just as you are.
You might venture to prove your worth through giving too much to others and being overly tolerant and patient.
Seeing yourself as a worthwhile person will connect you with the wonderful moment-to-moment experiences of your life.
