You’re overestimating how many people are judging you.
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Updated 8 years ago,August 17, 2017
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Youre defining yourself by who loves you rather than what you love.
Brooke Cagle
You are what you love,not what loves you.
Its what the fact that this person doesnt love you means about you.
The pain is sometimes not loss, its shame.
You are what you love.
You are defined in the eyes of others by the things you enjoy doing and do regularly.
Not who loves you.
Brooke Cagle
Stop wasting all of your time banking all of your energy on it.
Youre seeing through rose-colored nostalgia.
Your relationship was not as good as you think it was.
If your relationship wasthat good,youd have it still.
It would be part of your life.
When you think about it, really, you didnt always want it in the first place.
Youre extrapolating this moment.
In other words, youre assuming that what is happening right now is whats going to be happening forever.
Youre afraid that youll be single forever; that youll be broken always.
You are aware of what you lost, but not what youre about to gain.
It just means you havent believed it in enough to start taking action.
Youre using love as a litmus test for your worth.
Smart people, ugly people, nice people, unsuccessful people, and everyone in between.
Love is not a litmus test for your worth.
It does not determine how attractive you are to the outside world, how worthy you are.
Youre overestimating how many people are judging you.
This is to say: nobody really gives a shit in the way that you are afraid they do.
Nobody is even paying attention as much as you fear they are.
Youre using your grief as an excuse not to put yourself out there again.
We get it, youre sad.
Nobody is denying that losing someone you love is a painful, raw experience.
But whats hurting you more than anything is probably everything you think you lost going forward.
You dont want to get hurt again.
Youre not saying thank you.
Right now, you are on the precipice of an entirely new existence.
Even in your pain, say thank you.
Say thank you a million times over, every day, every morning, every hour.
This is the best thing that could have happened to you.
Life is getting someone out of your way.
The Universe is trying to protect you.
This was your catalyst.
