Youre more in love when youre apart.
Of course,this doesnt apply to couples who are long-distance,or separated by other means.
It applies to people who donthaveto be apart, butchooseto be apart.
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You dont actually get along when you spend time together.
When you do spend time together, what happens by the end?
Do you leave feeling excited and peaceful?
Does it always erupt into an argument?
Do you find yourself needing alone time pretty quickly?
Are you bothered by their presence, do they feel like a burden?
This is another major sign that you might be more in love with an idea.
While every couple argues and feels tense at times, it shouldnt be the predominant pattern in your relationship.
You wouldnt want to have them as a friend.
You wouldnt want to work with them as a colleague.
Another way to frame this question is to consider whether or not youd ever want to work with them.
Is this a person you would trust with your money, or your livelihood?
Do you trust their vision, or their opinion?
Would you want to work with them in any capacity?
5.You have huge differences in your values, priorities or future plans.
When youre young, you assume that love will conquer all and that feelings are all that matter.
it might be something you want to address before you go any farther.
Theyve verbally told you that they arent going to commit.
Sometimes, people tell us the truth about who we are, and we simply dont listen.
Therefore, theyll keep you around to fill a need, but wont fill yours in return.
Theyre giving you extremely mixed signals.
If youre confused about where they stand,the answer is no.
The answer is no even if you have a laundry list of reasons why it should be yes.
Anything less is a no that they, or you, are too afraid to accept.
You sabotage any efforts to move forward with the relationship.
You might see these behaviors in yourself, or in your partner.
Deep down, you know this isnt your person, but youre afraid of whats next.
Those people steady us, they act as anchors and life-preservers.
They make us think that we have a plan.
What we dont realize is that another person cannot be our path.
We never hold onto wrong relationships more than when were terrified of what might be next in our lives.
