Many holidays have been invented to celebrate romantic relationships and policies made to encourage getting married and having children.
That scenario would seem to them like a huge failure.
If this is you, I feel you youre not alone.
Jason Yoder
But you might want to take a closer look at your thinking and decision-making patterns.
You Feel Bad Turning Down Invites.
In your head, being single means failing and sad and lonely and all the negative stuff.
You Feel Guilty When Youre Not Dating.
Let me guess… not long?
Being single becomes a problem and you oughta solve itnow.
You cant let yourself breathe and enjoy your alone time fully.
It takes us to the next point…
3.
You Jump from One Relationship to Another.
To you, your default state is being with someone.
After a breakup, you dont have the habit of taking time to heal.
You turn to friends and especially romantic prospects for support and comfort.
You give a shot to Morph Yourself into Relationship Materials Whatever That Means.
You think: Look, this is someone desirable and a relationship with them would be so fantastic.
What do they want from a partner?
Whats considered relationship materials to them?
I need to be that!
You Become a People-pleaser.
Youre terrified of rejection and failure.
So you want people to like you.
You try hard to avoid conflicts.
You dont really say no.
When in A Relationship, You Avoid Rocking the Boat.
If youre in a relationship and feel neglected or disrespected, youre reluctant to call your partner out.
Youre afraid that you will create conflicts and your partner will leave you.
In your mind, its still better than being single.
Which brings the next point…
8.
You Stay in Bad Relationships Way Longer than You Should.
You would rather be with someone than no one at all.
You tell yourself that its okay.
You cant envision life after a break-up.
And you think,What if this is my best or last chance at having a relationship?
You Dont Do Things You Truly Want to Do.
A scarcity mindset leads you to have short-term thinking and miss your long-term goals.
To tackle this fear, you should start first from changing that mindset from scarcity into abundance.
Believe that there are plenty of people who are suitable for you and are coming your way.
Believe that you are a magnet for good things and healthy love.
Believe that youre enough and worthy.
Write these statements down and read them out loud every morning.
Do whatever it takes to internalize them.
Step into Your Fear
If youre scared of being single forever, stare right at it.
Whats the root of this fear?
What happens if youre actually single?
You fear it so much because you cant see it.
If you bring it into broad daylight, you will realize that its not so scary after all.
Heck, you might even love it.
Take a dating hiatus.
Try it for yourself and see what happens.
My first guess is that it will give you a renewed sense of self and stability and healthy self-esteem.
You will learn to recognize and meet your needs better.
Its what makes life worthwhile.
Its a double win!
Otherwise, theres no point you could do better on your own.
So prioritize you and being you.
This relationship with yourself will lay the foundation for an abundance of good things to flow into your life.
