The hardest part about dismantling our limiting belief system is recognizing when we exhibit them.
The hardest part about dismantling our limiting belief system is recognizing when we exhibit them.
Cultivating self-awareness leads to learning the why about our unhealthy traits so we can stop them before they arise.
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Here are nine toxic traits to let go of.
Asking for permission to make crucial decisions
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We never have control over the outcome of a career path or a length of a relationship.
Trying to be perfect
Perfectionism is a myth.
The concept of perfectionism is derived from the fear of making mistakes.
Mistakes are necessary seeds of our growth and evolution.
Mistakes and moments of imperfections show our openness to continue to learn, grow, and evolve.
You are doing the best you’re able to.
Relax and celebrate your efforts.
Your opinion of yourself is the only one that matters because you are the author of your story.
Do not let anyone else write it.
Gossiping
Gossip is a short-lived dopamine kick used to distract you from your insecurities.
When you get a high from diminishing someone else, you become addicted to the game of comparison.
The act of comparison is filling a void you refuse to acknowledge within yourself.
When you focus your energy on building yourself up, the act of putting someone down becomes trivial.
Giving to receive
Unless this is a business relationship, you should not give with the intention to receive.
True friendships are founded on giving through love without an expectation of receiving anything in return.
Having an expectation of reciprocity will lead to resentment.
Saying yes to everything
You are allowed to say no.
You are allowed to have boundaries.
You are still enough if you say no.
You are still a whole person if you say no.
8.Letting your temporary emotions define who you are
Emotions are a gateway to learning about ourselves.
They do not define who we are.
We are often afraid to feel anger, rage, and sadness.
However, when we allow these emotions to pass through our bodies, we become more self-aware and resilient.
Our feelings teach us lessons about ourselves but are not our identities.
We dictate who we are through our fundamental values of empathy, compassion, and love.
We are not for everyone, and everyone is not for us.
It takes practice to break down unhealthy beliefs to reach a state of mental peace and autonomy.
If you are guilty of any of these behavioral patterns, do not feel ashamed or embarrassed.
The first step of change is the self-awareness to move forward with a healthy and mindful approach to life.
