They need a lot of praise to avoid their fear that theyre not good enough.
If you dont provide this praise, theyll fish for it.
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Updated 6 years ago,September 10, 2019
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Chichi Onyekanne
They were super charming… at first.
They texted you constantly, complimented you, and made you feel admired.
This is called love bombing, the practice of overwhelming someone with affection and adoration.
Its a form of manipulationthey sweep you off your feet until youre hooked… and then everything changes.
They control the conversation.
Narcissists love to talk about their own accomplishments and achievements.
They will often exaggerate these stories to gain admiration from others.
Since theyre so busy thinking and talking about themselves, they wont have time to listen to you.
Narcissists view people as either good or bad, superior or inferior, or right or wrong.
You will be the lower person because narcissists view themselves as the best.
They feed off your compliments.
They need a lot of praise to avoid their fear that theyre not good enough.
If you dont provide this praise, theyll fish for it.
Thats why theyre constantly telling you how great they arethey need you to confirm it.
Narcissists will typically seek their confirmation of worthiness from people who are highly empathetic.
This is because they know these people are more likely to provide it, thanks to their sympathetic nature.
They dont feel sympathy or understand where you are coming from because they really cant comprehend feelings.
Do they dismiss your feelings?
They are rarely apologetic or remorseful for their actions.
Narcissists also lack an understanding about the nature of feelings.
They dont understand how their feelings occur.
They think their feelings are due to someone or something outside of themselves.
They dont realize that their feelings are triggered by their own thoughts and actions.
Overall, narcissists will always think youve caused their feelings, especially the negative ones.
They dont have any (or many) long-term friends.
Most narcissists wont have any long-term or real friends.
Another common sign to look out for is if theyre unhappy when you hang out with your friends.
They pick on you.
People with self-confidence do not do this.
In short, narcissists punish everyone around them for their lack of self-confidence.
Maybe it started as teasing, but then suddenly it became horrible and constant.
This is one of the worst forms of emotional manipulation and abuse.
Has anyone ever said or done something hurtful to you, then called you crazy for reacting?
And I dont just mean little things.
They could call you overweight/ugly/useless/boring and then call you stupid for getting upset.
There are so many examples of gaslightingI advise you look into it.
They think theyre right about everything and never say sorry.
Fighting with a narcissist is impossible.
Instead, they view themselves as someone who is just teaching you the truth.
It has to be someone elses fault, because they are perfect.
Sometimes the blame is generalizedall police, all bosses, all teachers, etc.
When you leave them, they will lash out.
Youve bruised their ego, which causes them rage and hatred.
Theyll usually feel wronged and undeserving.
They might bad mouth you to anyone who will listen, especially mutual friends.
They might start immediately dating someone else to make you feel jealous.
The narcissists life and personality is motivated by fear.
These fears are deeply buried, but they are afraid of being ridiculed, rejected, or wrong.
They have fears about being seen as inadequate and useless or being abandoned.
This makes it difficult and sometimes impossible for the narcissist to trust anyone else.
Because of this, the closer your relationship becomes, the less the narcissist will trust you.
They fear true intimacy and vulnerability because theyre afraid youll see their imperfections and judge or reject them.
No amount of reassurance seems to make a difference, because narcissists deeply hate and reject their own imperfections.
