We are hyper-attuned - to everything.
Micro-shifts in facial expressions?
Gestures that contradict spoken words?
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We are emotional private investigators that are highly attuned to changes in our environment.
We had to be for survive our childhood.
We trust too easily and we dont trust enough.
Thechildren of narcissistsare taught that they live in a frightening world one where love is rarely unconditional.
On the other hand, the sight oftoxic loveis all too familiar and feels like a comfort zone.
We deeply desire commitment, but we also fear it like the plague.
Outwardly, we seem to be the types in search of long-term commitment.
The prospect of a stable partner represents a forever that is frightening.
3.We are hyper-attuned to everything.
Micro-shifts in facial expressions?
Gestures that contradict spoken words?
We are emotional private investigators that are highly attuned to changes in our environment.
Thishyperactive attunementin childhood abuse survivors has even been confirmed by research.
Well, it comes in handy for being caretakers but not so much when it comes to maintaining boundaries.
We learned to cater to the needs of our toxic parents at a very young age so that survive.
Many of us even took onparent roles.
This means our boundaries are porous and need extra work and maintenance.
This can be especially dangerous if were dating another narcissistic person in adulthood.
Were always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
What does it mean to have someone believe in us and support us without a hidden agenda?
For a long time, our mentality might be, what cant come near us cant hurt us.
This is natural for someone who had to endure multiple violations even before they became adults.
It can also be a protective barrier againstpredatorswho are drawn to our empathy and resilience.
We become easily enmeshed with toxic people.
Children of narcissistic parents may find that they have unwittingly become tethered tonumeroustoxic people throughout their lives.
We have to do a LOT ofemotional house-cleaningto detach from these toxic relationships once we reach adulthood.
We are fiercely independent.
While were taking care of everyone elses needs, we give little mind to whos taking care of ours.
You are not an emotional punching bag or sponge.
Despite it all, we are magnanimous with our love.
If that isnt a beautiful feat, I dont know what is.
Just give us time and space to adjust to this sense of safety as a new normal.
