It’s a whole journey.
Over, and over, and over, and over again.
Its complicated, navigating a world that is so blatantly heterosexual.
And even when youve decided to start living as your authentic non-straight self, the world doesnt catch up.
They, almost always, still see you and assume straight.
We live in a society that has automatically assumed your heterosexuality for you the second youre born.
And so when you decide, for yourself, that you know yourself enough to come out?
Well, thats really just unfortunately not enough for society.
Society is not going to catch up.
At least not today, anyway.
You continuously and frequently and, frankly, regularly, come out.
Over, and over, and over, and over again.
But a universal truth that all queer people know but maybe dont admit?
This constant coming out to others is likely, not the first time youve done this dance.
As we all know, thats a whole journey in and of itself.
Because the first person you ultimately have to come out to?Its you.
And for a lot of us, we ALSO thought we were straight!
We also wondered what the hell was happening when those gay feels started popping up.
We also bounced back and forth between, Does this mean I want tobe withthem?
Or do I just want tobethem?
Its essentially like going through puberty again.
Those growing pains you feel in your youth?
You get the lovely experience of feeling them on repeat when you come out.
Youll hold your current self to impossible standards, assuming that now everything will be fine!
Now youll be better at everything!
Now everything will be fixed and easy!
(Spoiler: It will not.)
Its fucking worth it.
Coming out looks different for each person.
Sometimes its gratuitous, loud with confetti and a several hundred-word speech.
Sometimes, its more subtle.
And is only told to a select few.
Sometimes, its just to yourself.
And its quiet and individual and for you and you only.
Because you deserve to be you.
You deserve to be the person youve come in to.
You deserve to be the person who youve worked so hard to become.
You deserve to come out, even its just to yourself.
Once more for emphasis, youdeserveit.
A universal truth that all queer people understand is that no one comes out once.
Coming out is called a process for a reason because its kind of never-ending.
But the ultimate universal truth that all queer people understand?
Its that coming out?
It really does help pave the way to making literally everything better.
