When you doubt yourself in a relationship that’s when you know it’s not the one for you.
Those are the ones that take more energy.
Those are also the more dangerous ones.
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They tend to creep in and stay in.
So why do we cling to these relationships that linger longer than they should?
Why do we water a dead plant when its clear both of you might feel the same way?
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Why do we hang on so long?
I think a lot of the time, you dont want to admit what is true.
I think other times these relationships arent for your own good but you want them to be.
Edwards says, Those are the kind of friendships that really drain you.
The ones where you dont know where you stand.
Its when you feel a sense of obligation to see them simply because you havent in awhile.
These relationships are as easily defined as a toxic one.
But an ambivalent relationship comes with a shade of grey and confusion.
But you have to understand the emotional toll it takes on you trying to maintain these relationships.
You are suddenly overcome with doubt and questions of what are these persons true intentions?
What did they mean by what they said?
What do they think of me?
How do I feel?
How do they feel?
These are the friends you have out of convenience.
The ones you have simply because they are in a group youve had for a while.
Edwards says its really simple to determine these types of relationships with one question.
Which is:Are you ever doubting if they are really happy for you?
The right types of relationships in our lives come down to a few simple questions?
Does this person want to see me succeed?
Are they showing it or just cheering me on when Im doing well?
Could I turn to them with really big problems?
Do our conversations have substance?
If they walked out of my life tomorrow would it affect me?
Are they excited when I am and do they believe in me?
Do they help me to grow and learn?
Is it an equal exchange?
You dont owe a relationship to anyone.
