There is nobody that can fit into the god and self and love-sized gaps within you.
It is so much deeper than that.
A place where this is only room for scrutiny and envy.
Daria Shevtsova
Using another person to complete you is playing the comparison game in your favor, and doing it constantly.
It is rigging the system in your own mind to ensure that you are always on top.
It is being driven more by social cues of success than the feeling of deep, whole fulfillment.
It is being more inspired by how good you willseemthan how great your life could actuallybe.
The less okay we determine other people are, the less okay we make ourselves.
Other people cannot fix you.
They cannot heal you.
They cannot make you whole.
They can help you, they can guide you.
They can offer you wisdom, and if they are kind enough, maybe some love or support.
But they cannot do the work that is yours.
They cannot close those gaps, they cannot make you feel okay about your existence.
Only you have the power to do that.
There are strengths that are uniquely yours.
There are skills others have mastered that you couldnt even begin to attempt.
This is not a valuation of your personhood, this is just reality.
We all have strengths and weaknesses that, over time, balance one another out.
Maybe we are more proficient at one thing, but we are certainly less capable at another.
We cannot see the whole by the sum of a few parts.
Remember that what you say about others, you are saying about yourself.
What you judge in others, you will judge in yourself.
This is not some mystical law of karma, this is how our minds operate.
When we create rules for others, we unconsciously follow them, too.
So stop thinking that another person can make you feel easy and ready and happy to be alive.
That is your load to lift and burden to carry.
And if you cannot yet love yourself completely, have a go at work from the outside in.
Validate and affirm and praise and appreciate everything you’ve got the option to about everyone you know.
Start small, and stay genuine.
