So lets talk about what that entails.
First, lets talk about some signs that you arent his priority.
Why You Arent His Priority
1.
Hes in and out of your life.
He doesnt make plans in advance.
Youre doing all the work.
He tells you he doesnt want a relationship.
Dont devalue yourself by accepting the bare minimum.
He doesnt do anything to make you feel special.
You realized youre an option and you want to be a priority.
How can you turn the tables?
Turn the Tables
1.
Dont be afraid to leave.
What keeps us in relationships that are beneath us is fear.
And you are not afraid of leaving because you know youll find better.
If a man knows youre not going anywhere, then hes not motivated to give you that priority treatment.
Thats just human behavior.
We want maximum reward for minimum effort.
Youre giving the reward, and hes giving the minimum effort.
it’s crucial that you set your intention.
Establish depth of connection.
What blocks you from having this is our good old friend Fear again.
Again, you cant connect this way.
The way to form a true connection is to just be present and to justbe.
Let him know what it is you want!
So many women are afraid to speak up and express their needs for fear of coming across too needy.
But heres the thing- owning what you want isnt neediness.
Accepting what you dont want for fear of rocking the boat is needy behavior.
Neediness is valuing someone elses perception of you over your own.
So the needy person desperately needs their partner to respond a certain way, otherwise, they will suffer.
They are on an endless quest for validation but its never enough.
If you want certain things from him, try justtelling him.
Its not what you say, its the way you say it that makes a difference.
If you need him to plan dates in advance, then tell him.
Dont do it in a shaming, demanding, blaming way, just confidently express thats something you need.
If expressing your needs makes you anxious or nervous, then look at that a little closer.
Pulling back is especially important if the dynamic in your relationship is one where youre doing all the work.
Youve been initiating most of the texts and most of the plans.
Just step back a bit and see what happens.
Im not saying be mean or punishing.
Just focus on yourself a little more and focus on him a less and see what happens.
Dont commit to him until he has committed to you.
Dont act like his girlfriend until you are his girlfriend.
Dont close yourself off from other prospects, and dont delete your dating apps.
Keep yourself open to other possibilities.
There is nothing interesting about someone who is always available and waiting in the wings.
Its also not interesting when he is the best thing you have going on in your life.
You should make an effort to have a full, fulfilling, well-rounded life with many sources of happiness.
Dont wait for him to put you first.
Make your happiness your priority and fill your time with things that bring you joy.
When you do, he will most likely rise up to match.
And if he doesnt, he was never into it enough in the first place.
