Don’t check their Insta or their Snapchat or their bloody TikTok.
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Updated 5 years ago,May 16, 2020
Right, enough social media stalking.
Enough staring at ceilings or talking to the moon wondering if theyre doing the same.
God & Man
Get a pen, get a notepad and write a letter.
Just dont send it.
There is much less romance in our communication with other people these days.
Everything is so fast that we feel we have to react just as quick.
We encounter a situation and instantly have a response.
We are backstabbed and instinctively reach for our phone with a stream of fury-filled thoughts.
Its a problem, because then our entire brain becomes occupied with this crap.
Thats where the unsent letter comes in:It inspires clarity of thought.
Its as simple as it sounds, but the results are complex in the best way.
Think about how you feel when you go to bed with thoughts of them still swirling around your brain.
Think about the way that you just cannot let them go.
Something is still there, itching at your skin, clawing at your eyes and burrowing into your mind.
The key is to write what comes first.
Think of them and let the pen do the rest.
It doesnt have to be perfect; it doesnt have to be roll-of-the-tongue poetry.
It just has to be real, and it has to be for you.
You tell them how much it hurt.
You tell them how much you still love them.
You tell them how their texts kept you believing in the good of the world.
You tell them how you wonder how they are.
You tell them you wonder if their family asks about you.
You tell them that you are trying to move on but it just hurts so much.
You tell them youre not sure if any of it was real.
You tell them how it feels like a strand of your heart has been cut clean off.
Perhaps not a large one.
Perhaps not an immediate one.
You see, communication in life is essential.
We should talk to each other more.
We should hold each others hands and speak from the heart.
We should allow ourselves to argue, with clarity and compassion.
But communication is only effective if it is filtered and fair.
I am not talking about censoring yourself.
I am not talking about holding back your pain.
I am talking about communicating feelings you know to be true.
Too often you, no doubt, accept love that causes you pain.
Dont chase the blue ticks or check when they were last online.
Dont check their Insta or their Snapchat or their bloody TikTok.
