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Updated 4 years ago,July 5, 2021
Do you get excited about being wanted by others?
Perhaps it is evident in your career or within your personal relationships.
How does it make you feel?
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Reflect on these feelings as we delve deeper into this topic.
Theres no denying itbeing wanted can boost our self-esteem and self-worth.
Because if the ego doesnt receive validation, we become depressed, angry, or emotionally deprived.
Validation Must Come From Within
What makes people weak?
Their need for validation and recognition, their need to feel important.
Dont get caught in this trap.
Are you with me so far?
Nod your head in agreement that you understand the difference between being wanted and being valued.
The Instagram influencers who thrive on social validation manufacture their lives to appeal to a certain audience.
They are promoting a misleading way of life out of reach for many people.
I dont intend to demonize them but highlight why validation is a double-edged sword we can become addicted to.
The energy of being wanted drains our life-force because it is grounded in desire.
We become addicted to the intoxicating emotions that feed our ego.
In contrast, being valued arises out of our commitment to serve others.
Think about those in your community who perform honourable work, helping under-privileged groups.
The value they provide is selfless and grounded in a dedication to serve others.
Therefore, the meaning we ascribe to our actions arises from our commitment to enrich other peoples lives.
Are Your Relationships Self-Serving Or Self-Empowering?
Conversely, being valued is the foundation of our character and cannot be taken from us.
Recall when you were in a relationship and your partner broke it off.
Think about how you felt following the breakup.
It may have taken you many months to get over them, and it probably challenged your self-worth.
Therefore, we ought to place greater importance on being congruent in our actions, our character and self-worth.
Character cannot be taken from us becausetrue character is revealed behind closed doors when no one is looking.
With this in mind, Id like you to consider three important relationships in your life.
Choose an intimate partner if you are currently in a relationship, a professional relationship, and a friend.
Analyse each of them to see whether you are wanted or valued in the relationship.
If you are unsure, ask them.
Find out what qualities they value most in you.
Why do they value these qualities amongst others?
