Some even take a sadistic joy in deliberately provoking others.
They are masters of impression management and positive first impressions.
This is when the period of abuse known as devaluation begins.
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This abrupt withdrawal can cause emotional whiplash and causes victims to doubt themselves and their worth.
This push-pull and hot and cold method is also a notorious tactic among pick-up artists.
It causes victims to ask, Why are they treatingmethis way?
and to engage in self-blame.
Do not reward bad behavior by treating them as more valuable or putting them on a pedestal.
Work on building your dream life outside of the narcissist and striving toward your ideal self.
They may even sadistically compliment others toprovoke youand get you to compete, while withholding praise from you.
Validate your emotions and be gentle with yourself.
You are better off using that energy and effort on people who are truly worthy of your support.
Recognize that any form of withholding is a foreshadowing of more mistreatment and abuse to come.
