But you arent youre being compliant.
Anyone who is authentic can identify and connect with authenticity in someone else.
If you are being fake, he can feel it and he will immediately bangzone you.
Cristian Newman
The bangzone for women is similar to the friendzone for men.
Accommodating, compliant girls are the best kind of girls for the bangzone.
You may think you are the unicorn because you are doing everything you might to be compatible.
But you arent youre being compliant.
Compatible isnt the same and compatible doesnt come without conflicts.
Players gonna play, and girl, when youre not real, youre playing.
Cristian Newman
A player will fake a relationship to get uncomplicated sex.
And guess what you are doing?
Faking that youre chill and have no expectations beyond easy sex when what you want is a relationship.
You wonder why hes being such an asshole.
But the truth is, you set it up that way.
You asked for little and you got little.
You act like you need nothing, you get nothing.
A certain amount of time passing doesnt automatically earn you status or affection in his mind.
Youre bartering sex for attention.
You being a complex, caring, interesting person is what will earn his affection and interest.
Being in the bangzone is confusing and painful!
Youve invested in him!
Hes got nothing to give you.
And he feels like you changed the agreement on him out of nowhere.
You used to be the chill girl the one with no needs and no expectations!
You didnt give a fuck, you were just chill.
Dont be chill.
But thats not real.
Men know what women are like!
They have friends, sisters, ex-girlfriends and mothers!
The women in their lives are complex.
They have needs and passions and dreams and frustrations.
Men want women who are also complex and who inspire them to be more.
You playing small doesnt inspire him.
Your accommodating doesnt interest him, it amuses him.
He will likely not reply until he wants something from you as well.
Listen, guys arent all douchebags.
But even great guys will fall into the convenient relationship.
Thats what you are doing when you are the accommodating chick.
Make him work for it.
He loves to work for it!
Reward him for his efforts by sharing more of you, giving more, opening up more.
Then make him work again.
He will love it.
This is building trust and intimacy.
Be real with him.
Tell him what you like and dont like.
He will appreciate your company even more.
And if you really dont like football, then dont go!
Men are simply better at standing up for their needs in a non-confrontational way.
Take a note from his playbook.
Its okay to do what you want to do!
Just be real with him.
