The endless possibilities have you so excited that you are living in a fantasy world.
And the problem with fantasy is that it keeps you from being grounded in reality.
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Updated 6 years ago,August 22, 2019
Meeting someone new is always an exciting experience.
Natalie Allen
(#goals #MCE #hisrib).
A guy I was talking to for a couple of months started to switch up on me.
Was this relationship worth it?
After venting to my therapist about what happened she encouraged me to do a writing exercise.
In this exercise, I had to make a T-chart.
On one side I put all the positives about the guy/relationship.
On the other side, I put all the negatives about the guy/relationship.
I remember finding it so easy to write the negatives and struggling to write the positives.
And then it hit me.
I really didnt like this guy as much as I thought.
We also had very little in common and never had an engaging conversation.
And thats the problem when we just see like someone based off of potential.
We get so focused on what the person or relationship could be that we neglect what it is.
When we first date someone its okay to be excited and fantasize about possibilities.
But its important to truly get to know someone and not jump into something without getting the whole picture.
Dont like someone for what theycould beand see them for who theyare.
If not then dont pursue it any further.
Youre only setting yourself up to be disappointed in the future.
Time is a great indication of revealing people for who they truly are.
And those who stand the test of time are the ones who are worth it in the end.
