Be careful not to lose your sense of authenticity when you’re with someone else.
Be careful not to lose track of your own personal goals and dreams.
Be careful not to lose yourself, in another human being.
Andrew Dong
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Updated 7 years ago,March 5, 2018
Dont lose yourself in love.
Dont lose yourself in another person.
In another human being.
Dont ever forget who you are, and what your values are, for somebody else.
Love is a powerful thing.
Maybe even too powerful at times.
Andrew Dong
Its kind of like alcohol.
You never know how much it effects you until after its over.
Until its all gone.
Love is beautiful, dont get me wrong.
Its something many people dont understand or even get to experience.
Which is why you’re gonna wanna be careful.
Be careful not to lose your sense of authenticity when youre with someone else.
Be careful not to lose track of your own personal goals and dreams.
Be careful not to lose yourself, in another human being.
It happened to me.
I thought it was normal.
I thought it was what love was all about.
I thought that love was giving someone my everything.
I thought love was about giving and giving all of me.
But I lost myself in him.
I lost myself in love.
It was fucked up.
I was addicted to this person.
Like a cocaine addict without their fix.
Like my soul was gone when I wasnt with him.
I felt like I wasnt me without him.
And thats a dangerous situation to be in.
When I lost him, I didnt know who I was.
I didnt know who I was without being called his girlfriend.
Without being his other half.
And thats a dreadful feeling to feel.
To feel like I was nothing if I didnt have him.
To feel like I wasnt whole.
To feel like I had no purpose in this life if I wasnt with him.
It was love.
But it was the kind of love that was poisonous.
Because when we broke up, I had no idea who I was.
I had no clue what I wanted or needed.
And I had no idea how to love myself, by myself.
Love taught me to be selfless.
But I needed to be selfish.
Love taught me how to be kind to someone else.
But what I really needed was to be kind to myself.
And love didnt teach me how to do that.
This love just taught me that I was nothing without someone else.
Dont lose yourself in love.
Dont lose yourself in another person.
In your significant other.
Dont lose what you need.
Dont lose your core values.
Dont lose your happiness and your sense of peace and clarity.
And dont give your everything to someone else.
Because what happens when they are gone?
What happens if they leave?
you should probably be whole without someone else holding you up.
you oughta be whole without needing someone else.
you better be whole on your own, and in your relationships.
