Pain has no timeline.
Be gentle with yourself and remind yourself that it will get better.
Most of us are struggling with pain and suffering that we choose not to share with others.
Christopher Campbell
We dont want to be seen as weak, dramatic, or sensitive.
So what do we do?
We push the pain far down inside of us.
Christopher Campbell
We polish ourselves on the outside.
We paint on happy faces and we tell everyone were doing fine.
Maybe we are fine, temporarily.
The problem with pain, though, is it finds a way out.
Slowly, it starts seeping out of you in ways you wont be able to predict.
Maybe you snap at someone for no reason.
Maybe you burst into tears when you cant find your keys and youre late for work.
Maybe you start declining invitations from friends.
Maybe your health starts declining or you find yourself exhausted most of the time.
You may think you’re able to use positive thinking to make your pain go away.
Maybe if you focus only on positive things, the negative will magically fade away.
Maybe if you constantly tell yourself you should be happy, youll stop feeling sad.
The only way to get through your pain is to face it.
When you feel overwhelming sadness welling up inside of you, let it out.
Cry as long or as much as you need.
Dont tell yourself to get over it and move on.
Take however long it’s crucial that you truly feel the pain and embrace it.
The same goes for any other negative emotion.
If its anger, accept that you feel angry.
Its uncomfortable to tell people when youre upset with them but you must embrace the discomfort.
Sometimes you may experience more pain at first so you can work through it.
Pain has no timeline.
Be gentle with yourself and remind yourself that it will get better.
You may grow tired of hearing cliches about suffering such as time heals all or pain wont last forever.
Those may or may not apply to your suffering.
Sometimes, pain doesnt go away.
Sometimes facing our pain means learning to live with it.
Some pains in this life dont fade with time.
It may feel as raw to you ten years from now as it does in this moment.
You will be stronger and wiser because of it.
Avoiding your pain will only keep you stuck in an endless cycle of negativity and sadness.
