Maybe you’re facing heartbreak because you keep looking for ways to change people that break you.
I learned that direct rejection was worse because it had more to do with me.
Maybe youre facing heartbreak because you keep looking for ways to change people that break you.
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But the reality remains that we cant expect a different outcome while welcoming the same variables in our lives.
You cant force a person into a relationship.
You cant distract a person into happiness.
You cant pretend something works when it doesnt.
Every person has the potential to changeits just that most people dont.
And if they do, it happens over some time, and usually outside of a relationship.
Most people are good, even if many dont act that way.
But were only human, so we make mistakes.
We all bleed, and we all love, so have empathy for the people that hurt you.
This doesnt rationalize their bad behavior but instead pushes you to look at the scenario objectively.
When you look at past heartbreaks, acknowledge that neither person is necessarily bad nor necessarily good.
You were just positioned at different points on your separate journeys.
You are two imperfect human beings looking for love, and you didnt find your match.
Recognize who youre choosing to spend time with and where youre utilizing our energy.
Instead, shift your focus onto the only person you have control over, and thatsyou.
