If youre cool with keeping it casual, getting benched is just part of the game.
No harm, no foul.
Youve got your own prospects.
Danny Lines
The worst part of getting benched is you dont always realize youre on the bench immediately.
Theyre still giving youbreadcrumbsof attention and affection, which feels like enough to sustain your situationship.
But like most things, that works until it doesnt.
Eventually, the breadcrumbs become stale and you realize you not only want more from them butneedmore from them.
And so you ask them for more.
You ask for exclusivity.
And they may hit you back with one of these classics:
I just need a little time.
It also puts everything on their terms.
It takes your feelings entirely out of the equation.
Mostly, though, it depends on a future date that may not even exist.
Waiting for someone to decide that youre enough destroys your self-worth.
It wrecks your self-respect.
Why are you allowing yourself to be a backup plan?
Why are you cool with accepting thebare minimum?
Who taught you that you were only an afterthought?
Youre worth more than being pushed aside.
Youre better than being someones backup plan.
You deserve someone who puts in the effort.
You deserve someone who cares about you.
You deserve consistency, commitment, and love.
To be honest, the person who benches you isnt afraid to lose you.
If they did, they would have committed to you.
So switch up the game on them and call it quits.
Because when they dont choose you, you’ve got the option to always choose yourself.
you’re able to always do that.
