Let me tell you something: Your actions in between dates matter just as much as the date itself.
One is, of course, not being taken out on a real date.
The other (even more common) complaint is that the guy theyre seeing doesnttext them often enough.
Twenty20 / @lelia_milaya
If you think going a week without texting is cool beans, think again.
It helps us have faith that youre able to focus on us and not get distracted by other options.
You could lose her interest.
Twenty20 / @lelia_milaya
(Sorry, Ive always wanted to say that.)
In the dating world, the battery might die you leave things for six days forget about months.
And if you dont really care, then why the hell are you dating her?
I dont think you want her interest in you to fizzle or completely die out.
Texting all day everyday is how things move too fast.
However, sending a text to check in with her once every few days sends the right message.
It says, Im interested, Im attracted, but Im not looking to be your insta-boyfriend.
It doesnt matter how slow youre taking things, because no matter what shell still want attention from you.
If you feel so sure shes interested, that means shes been doing everything right.
Anyways, its probably about time you picked up the phone and checked in with her.
Communication in between dates isnt that hard, guys.
When you already have another date with her lined up
F*cking rights.
Good for you, man.
That punch in of gentlemanly maturity is f*cking hot.
Im RSVPing yes, boy, because you just got me hook line and sinker.
It makes us ladies feel damn good knowing when were seeing you next.
It lets us chill out a little.
Wed rather sit easy knowing weve got another date night locked in.
However, should you stilltext in between dates?
Yes, but not as much texting is required if we already know when were seeing you next.
When we know the date were seeing you next, we dont require as much maintenance in between.
The question is, do you have to text her while youre away?
Shes probably not expecting you to, but youd impress her if you did.
Send one or two texts per week while youre away and thats enough to keep you on her radar.
Texting her first is a must.
When she thinks youre away, unavailable or busy, shes not going to want to bother you.
Shed prefer to let you reach out when you’re able to.
Its totally cool if youre not sure how into me you are quite yet.
I already know Ill charm my way in eventually and theres no rush.
Im not suggesting you keep her on the hook thats not what youre doing.
If theres any interest, its worth exploring and its not worth losing.
How many dates should you give it before you make a decision on where you stand?
It takes months to get to know someone, so Id say months.
But if you do decide its a no-go … yo just tell her.
Ghosting is so 2016.
