The way they process and experience things is different.
When a man needs space, it often has little, if anything, to do with you.
Space Because of Stress
The number-one reason aman pulls awayis that he is stressed.
Joel Sossa
Men dont typically like to talk about their problems and see it as a sign of weakness.
He will want to hide away until he has reached a solution.
This doesnt necessarily mean hes sitting down and strategizing on ways to solve the problem.
Men have a much harder time processing and handling emotions than women do.
For him, escaping his feelings temporarily is sometimes more beneficial than trying to sort through them.
AUniversity of Vienna neuroscience lab foundthat men become more self-centered and less empathetic when theyre stressed out.
So it isnt personal, its just his process!
And even worse is when she tries to solve the problem for him.
Even though your intentions are pure, when you offer up solutions he feels emasculated.
When he is under stress, just give him space and try not to take it personally.
Why is this so hard?
Talking about it is therapeutic, and a solution isnt necessary.
Its important to realize that when a man pulls back, he isnt shutting you out.
If he does come to you, dont venture to solve the problem for him.
you could offer advice if he asks, butonlyif he asks.
Guys arent always able to articulate their emotional needs.
So he might not tell you that he really needs your approval and appreciation.
Instead, he backs away.
give a shot to pay attention to what lights him up and what shuts him down.
You might be surprised by what he tells you.
And no matter what it is, try not to get defensive.
Your instinctive response might be, I do that all the time!
but have a go at restrain yourself and hear him out.
you’re able to also voice what it is you need from him.
He might say he needs space, or he might just start taking it without warning.
And the woman is baffled.
She thought everything was going so well!
These situations usually happen for one of two reasons.
Reason One
The first is a very subtle, sneaky one.
It comes from amindset shiftthat happens within you.
The guy can pick up on this energy.
Maybe youre being subtle, but hell feel it on a visceral level.
I talk a lot more about this in my article on why guys suddenly lose interest.
Dont stress, everything is fine!
Your fears are real; Im not taking away from that.
Maybe it sounds stupid and irrational, but its a real fear for most guys.
Dont stand in the way or make him feel guilty or tell him what he should be doing.
And when hes fully charged, thats when youre going to find him the most attractive.
Thats when hes going to be that ideal man that you want.
And the same goes for women.
Women need to recharge their woman batteries too by doing girly stuff with their friends.
As a woman, you should never deny a man his time to recharge.
This will also benefit you as well, so everyone wins!
Focus on those things, and his need for space will no longer be frightening or nerve-wracking.
Instead, it will be an opportunity to give him something he needs to be his best self.
