I totally understand the feelings of panic and insecurity that come rushing through in this scenario.
A woman with weak self-esteem will fall to pieces when a guy isnt chasing her.
Why Will a Man Stop Chasing?
In a nutshell, the chase has to end at some point!
And there isnt as much of a need to chase when it reaches that level.
Also, a man will only chase you in proportion to how out of reach you are.
Fishing wouldnt be a sport if the fish swam up to the surface and said here I am!
In the beginning, his competitive drive is activated, hes trying to win you over.
A lot of women notice that once they reciprocate this level of interest, he seems less enthusiastic.
And its a good thing when you reach that place!
When a man stops chasing, justrelax.You have to be calm about it.
Nothing good comes from being in a panicked, frenzied state of mind.
Here is a good exercise to try.
So youre having all these obsessive, spiraling thoughts.
Stop and just notice the thought for a minute.
Maybe youre thinking, I cant believe hes losing interest in me, what did I do?
How do I fix this?
Now ask yourself: Does this thought serve me well?
Does this take me where I want to go?
And the answer is going to be no!
Thoughts like this activate your fears and insecurities.
They make you anxious and on edge, just waiting for the other shoe to stop.
Redirect your mind onto something else or just tell yourself the opposite.
Thoughts are powerful forces and shape our reality, so stop giving so much power to the bad ones!
Dont attempt to win him over.
This is exhausting and it will pummel your self-esteem.
The best part about being in a relationship is you’ve got the option to justbe.
Give him the space to pursue you.
This isnt going to work against you.
So show interest… but then leave it alone and let him pursue you.
You dont need to micromanage your love life.
Dont invest too soon.
This means you keep yourself mentally open to the possibility of other guys and other outcomes.
So ensure you and he are on the same page before you get in too deep.
Your time and mental energy are valuable resources, stop squandering them!
Stop obsessing and being desperate to hear from him.
So change the mantra.
I will get the love I want And just sit with that.
This is very different than desperately wishing and hoping he reciprocates your feelings.
It may not even be him that you want- hes fulfilling something within you.
When we obsess over someone, its often because they represent something to us.
So give a shot to get to the heart of what that is.
And the most important advice of all: you’re gonna wanna trust.
Really feel it and believe it.
