There is so much counterproductive advice circulating about what emotional healing is.
We string ourselves out, preoccupied with ensuring we are just precisely what others might need us to be.
Maybe you have to prioritize yourself for a while.
Anastasiya Pavlova
Maybe you oughta say no, clear your schedule, and reflect.
Maybe you have to practice voicing your own boundaries.
Maybe you have to stop allowing yourself to be bulldozed by other people.
Maybe you have to start doing what feels right to you over what might look right to others.
But long-term, healing is not neglecting other peoples needs in favor of your own.
However, those exact behaviors are what will actually make you feel worse over time.
It is not okay to consistently cancel plans on people last minute because you dont feel like going anymore.
It is not okay to stop showing up for work and expect other people to pick up the slack.
It is not okay to speak or act impulsively and without any real consideration for the consequences.
Honoring yourself does not involve disrespecting others, and it never has.
The problem was never that you were only ever meeting other peoples needs and neglecting your own.
The problem was that you did not know how to respect other people while still advocating for yourself.
Everything you want in life in some way involves other people.
When you only consider yourself, you dont get very far.
We cannot totally disregard other people just because we need to prioritize ourselves first.
The two can coexist, and in fact, they must.
You must learn to at once live in your truth while allowing other people to live in theirs.
If you dont, your path will be lined with dead-ends, conflict, and pain.
Life is about relationships.
First, the one we have with ourselves, and then the one we have with those around us.
Life is an ecosystem, one body or being cannot be an island unto themselves.
Take care of yourself first.
But remember that the goal was never to take care of yourselfonly.
