This doesnt happen if he feels like he doesnt have her.
That chasing dynamic requires her to keep up her guard and objectifies every interaction in the relationship.
It also kills any chance for true love to develop.
God & Man
You cant manipulate someone into feeling something for you …
I mean you’re free to, but your true self will emerge eventually … and then what?
Did you feel loved?
She has let a few of these situations drag on for years!
He liked her a lot (and it was obvious!
It was a drama-free, effortless, easy relationship.
In those chase relationships, you get lost in someone elses drama, and drama can be exciting.
You dont stand on solid ground and never know whats going to happen next.
Healthy relationships arent like this.
There is no guesswork and no chasing and no trying to figure out what everything means.
Healthy relationships are calm and pleasant.
If youve never had a healthy relationship, this can feel really weird at first!
Here is something Im sure many of you dont realize.
Guys know when youre doing things to make them chase you!
to write about men effectively, I spend a lot of time around men.
At first theyll put up with it, but it gets very annoying very fast.
She texted him while we were hanging out and he looked at it but didnt respond.
Shes probably just trying to make me want her more, he told me plainly.
It didnt last longhe gave up on the relationship soon after.
We think if we text back right away hell think were too eager and hell be put off.
Confident women arent concerned with this.
The chase is important and its the only way!
Fair enoughtheres an element of truth to that.
But heres whats really at play.
Whenever we work for something, we become more invested in it; this is just human nature.
However, the work does not need to come through playing a game of cat and mouse.
Relationships all come with varying degrees of difficulty, even the best ones.
I think friendships are a good model of a natural way of relating to someone.
And if someone is shady with you, you just dont want to deal with it.
If he isnt asking you out, just let it go.
If he says he doesnt want a relationship, take what he says at face value and move on.
Now he is a challenge, he is the ultimate judge of her worth.
If she can prove that shes good enough to be his girlfriend, she will be worthy.
If she cant, then shell have to keep trying until shes finally good enough.
The more insecure a girl is, the more entangled she will become in this toxic web.
Think of this guy as a drug, and just say no.
