I remember the day I called it quits.
There will never be a right time.
You owe it to yourself to be happy.
Austin Distel
But what about his happiness?
It would have ended up happening sooner rather than later.
All I kept thinking was Its okay to break things off.
And youll be alright.
Just hang in there.
It was as if the ground below me shifted and forced me to reexamine my life.
I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
This reminded me that happiness is always a choice.
Another part of me kept thinking, What will my family think if I break off the engagement?
What will everybody else think of me?
I am an attractive, educated young woman.
How did I get here?
Of course, he never saw it coming.
But I was fed up with his excuses.
At times I wondered, Does he even notice that Im here?
The disconnectedness between us had become intolerable.
Both of us contributed to the relationship fail, but in different ways.
Each of us was attentive and committed to one area of life.
For him, it was building his career.
For me, it was focusing too much energy on him and not enough on my own needs.
We both couldnt find the balance needed to sustain the relationship.
I tried to restrain him, but my badgering approach caused him to retreat further into his work cave.
He avoided confrontation and worked long hours as an alternative to communicating about our problems.
Its important to take a look at the family origin.
Many go-getters grew up in a family where strong work ethics were reinforced and valued above everything else.
Another important factor to look at is personality traits.
Many high achievers will pour all their energy into their passions, taking risks and never giving up.
Their built-in resilience is due to a positive mindset, no matter the obstacles that come their way.
They naturally exude self-confidence and are leaders.
Before you’ve got the option to fix the problem, you should probably recognize it.
Many successful men and women spend all their time with like-minded individuals and therefore dont objectively see the issues.
For them, everything is urgent, and everything work-related is important.
And once that happens, these individuals will often focus on the task, and forget about the relationship.
So embrace your quirks, your flaws, and the fact that life is a roller coaster at times.
Whatever you believe to be true about your life becomes your reality.
If your beliefs about yourself dont work in your favor, then you’re able to change them.
The process of change not only requires awareness, but a plan for how to change.
It is critical to get to know yourself before making the decision to enter a relationship.
Ask yourself those difficult but honest questions, such as: What do you want?
What kind of relationships do you want you to have?
What are your non-negotiables?
Ultimately, shared values are what count the most.
We dont want to be rejected.
