Even if youre not focused on improving, youre allowed to change.
In fact, youremeantto change.
The tricky thing is, were not taught how to end friendships.
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Romantic relationships, yes.
Were only aware of the best friends forever narrative.
What happens when it ends, and not by a falling out?
I can tell you its just as bad as a breakup actually, maybe worse.
The smallest percentage youll experience is the lifetime bang out of friend.
What happens when you change?
They dont know how to relate to your new resonance.
Its like it has nothing to do with you but everything to do with you at the same time.
It can be a jarring change that can catch everyone, even yourself, by surprise.
Know that this is normal.
Im not saying this is easy.
You may feel like a monster for calling it quits.
But just like grief and death, I believe the spirit of the friendship stays with you forever.
The love and the lessons remain.
You keep a piece of your time together thats impacted you, making you the person you are today.
I didnt know what life would look like without them.
That doesnt mean we were still meant to be friends.
When your energy changes, you dont align with the people that once were an energetic match for you.
Youve changed your vibration, and because of that, you start resonating with people at this new vibration.
Its normal, and it doesnt make you a monster.
It just means youve grown, which is ultimately what we came here to do.
My mindset, then habits, and lifestyle, as a result, changed rapidly when I started awakening.
It caused a rift with my old life and the relationships I had built from that awareness.
I had a lot of doubt about letting go of these friendships.
How could I do this, and was I doing the right thing?
As a loyal friend, I was conflicted.
Ask yourself: Is this person contributing to your growth or taking from it?
Just because youve changed doesnt always mean you better reevaluate your friends, by the way.
Only when it feels out of alignment.
Some relationships naturally fade away, and others warrant an honest conversation.
You dont need to stay in a friendship out of force of habit or because you feel obligated to.
Their generosity, spirit, and trust throughout our time together have made my life meaningful.
That never goes away.
You have to make room for the new by letting go of the old.
Now Im in the stages of calling in new friends, and many have shown up this year.
It took some time, though a few years at least to start my finding new friends.
I tried to skip this stage and jump right into new relationships to fill the void left behind.
You have to get to know someone first and build trustbeforegiving them the role of being your friend!
Especially when youre raw from awakening, youre more susceptible to falling into unhealthy friendships and associations.
Its important to align with people that understand and view the world in a similar way as you.
I think its equally important to know people that view the world differently.
Know that its okay to stand on your own for a while.
Just like with dating, being your own friend draws true friends to you.
Let go of them gracefully.
Remember those amazing memories and the people that influenced you.
A friendship doesnt need to last forever for impact you forever.
