Youre on a date.
They arent advice or reason or liberation.
What they are is EXCUSES.
Kassandra Munoz
Excuses for you to settle.
Excuses for you to ask for less than what you deserve.
Excuses for you to be meek and accommodating.
Dont spritz it with feminism perfume.
That shit is still gonna stink!
When a man takes you out he WANTS to treat you special.
Kassandra Munoz
He WANTS to put in extra effort.
This is a part of him showing his interest in you.
Its like paying a compliment.
It makes both people feel good.
It makes him feel shitty.
It makes him feel emasculated.
It makes him feel disappointed.
It makes him feel like, damn if she cant appreciate me, why bother?
No one wants to keep putting in extra effort if it isnt appreciated and worse, if its refused!
And you taught him that you are totally cool being an afterthought at best!
This is what you wanted and you got it.
Listen, if you want to go out and have a nice dinner and go dutch, thats fine.
you’ve got the option to do that as often as you want.
Thats what friends are for!
Dating is for getting to know someone.
Dating has romantic intent.
You do things with your romantic partner (like have sex!
that you dont do with your friends.
When you are the one person giving more of yourself then you deserve to be treated differently.
And so does he!
We all want to feel special and we all want to feel wanted.
Its selfish to expect the world to make you feel special.
Its appropriate to expect your partner to make you feel special.
Feeling bad about asking him to PROTECT you by wearing a condom.
Besides that, LIFE IS HARD.
So dont artificially minimize your needs when you are dating him.
The shit will get real.
The first is that you just dont see him that way.
And if you dont mean to friendzone, then you are bangzoning yourself.
If he doesnt do much to keep you around, youre in the bangzone.
Worse, you went dutch on your ticket to the bangzone.
The other thing you are doing is showing him that you are going to be competing with him.
That is not hot.
Men love to compete.
Its in their blood.
They compete all day with each other and with themselves.
They need a damn break from competing.
But when he takes you to dinner and you offer to pay, you are sharing his glory.
You are sharing the prize.
Girl, thats a participation prize.
Participation prizes are for losers.
Give him the credit!
Dont dull his motherfucking sparkle.
And your farts are going to stink.
Your period is going to stain the bed.
Your emotions are going to get the best of you.
Men arent like this.
They dont hold back for long.
They dont create a sanitized, picture perfect image of themselves during the dating period.
Hes going to be watching football with his stinky socks on the floor.
Hes going to put six packs of beer in your fridge and boxers with skid marks in your hamper.
The easiest is to simply excuse yourself to go to the restroom when the check comes.
The next easiest tactic is to just pretend you dont even see it.
Women ramble all the time.
Hell be happy to focus on calculating the tip if you ramble about something really banal.
The next tactic is one that I like to use.
Its a more advanced move that requires coordination, timing and just a hint of grace.
When the bill comes, get eye contact with him.
Hold his gaze as he starts to reach for his wallet.
When he does, you reach for your purse.
Think old western shoot out.
And… JAZZ HANDS!
Thank God thats settled.
