Dr. Patrick Carnes also calls it the betrayal bond.
Joe Carvercalls the small kindness perception.
This is when they subject you to hot-and-cold behavior to get you fixated on them and seeking their validation.
They will intermittently incorporate periods of affection and attention into the abuse cycle.
Manufacturing chaos.Individuals with narcissistic and psychopathic traits enjoy manufacturing chaos and getting reactions from others.
By manufacturing chaos in your life, narcissistic and psychopathic individuals gain leverage.
Jealousy induction.Researchindicates that narcissistic andpsychopathic peopleboth engage in jealousy induction to gain a sense of power and control.
Identity erosion and distortion.Narcissistic and psychopathic individuals do not always abuse in a way that is outwardly obvious.
Narcissists will distort your true traits and behaviors to depict you as the opposite of who you are.
Ironically, their accusations tend to be a projection of their own behaviors, traits, and character.
Youre no fun, or Youre not very social when you are in fact outgoing and popular).
This is a way to alienate you even when you are surrounded by support and healthy praise from others.
Alienation and degradation.Not only do narcissists isolate you from healthy feedback from others, they alienate you emotionally.
Destructive conditioning.Narcissistic and psychopathic individuals punish you for experiencing joy outside of them.
That is why narcissistic and psychopathic individuals are notorious for ruining holidays, special celebrations and birthdays.
You deserve to hold onto your joy.
This time, imagine these joyful moments playing out without their interference.
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