When it comes to relationships and love, actions really do speak louder than words.
This guy has an air of intrigue.
That sparkle in his eyes.
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Charismatic, understated, worldly.
He is articulate, witty, and seemingly genuine.
A perfect example of something happening when you least expect or seek it.
The banter and rapport builds.
Surely an invitation to meet for coffee or to have dinner is next on the agenda.
At last you make plans to meet.
A simple coffee date.
Low key, nothing extravagant perfect.
The day arrives and soon excitement gives way to disappointment as he texts to cancel.
This is the calibre of excuse ordinarily given by flaky guys.
Is he really interested?
Do I just need to chill?
This typifies the internal dialogue that usually ruminates in ones head when dealing with flaky guy syndrome.
You want to be the cool, understanding girl who is totally okay with this.
I hope work goes okay.
I have plans for tomorrow so lets catch up in a few days.
You reassure yourself there is no need to stress.
Of course he will reschedule.
However, this guys approach is anything but predictable.
Days go by, then a couple of weeks and you do not hear anything from him.
In the quiet interlude, you begin to question yourself.
Did I do anything wrong or not?
Should I text him?
If I do, will I appear weak or will I seem like a crazy desperate person?
Is he just a chill guy, taking things in his stride?
Am I overthinking it?
His charming words offer reassurance that he is interested and is not playing games.
All is forgotten and a second chance is granted.
Red flags, red flags.
Giving him a second chance is a naive mistake, I hear the objective observer cry.
This guy is like kryptonite, your Achilles heel.
His inconsistency and mixed messages are lighter fuel to the ego.
Your inner critic rages like an out of control fire, burning up your self-esteem.
His cycle of flaky behavior is baffling.
When it comes to relationships and love, actions really do speak louder than words.
He will leave you feeling emotionally insecure, uncertain of his true intent and continually second guessing yourself.
This moment is not about him and very much about you.
Every time we tolerate disrespect and hold our tongue, we fail to honor our boundaries and self-worth.
The experience of flaky guy syndrome says so much about him.
Whatever the reason, you cannot be accountable for how someone else chooses to show up.
You are only accountable for choosing whether or not you will accept this kind of behavior.
