Partners stop talking because they fear what might happen after the conversation starts.
Its easy to understand that relationships fail when conflict is unrelenting.
Dr. Gottmans research has revealed that for some conflict avoiders, this interaction is good enough for them.
Rémi Walle
The unspoken issues and irritants add up until the tension will hit a breaking point.
Eventually, partners explode, or worse, shut down.
They attempt to speak up, but by that point, its often too late.
They dont have any gas left in the tank to fight for the relationship.
Theyre just done.
Maybe at some point, one or both partners did fight.
Rémi Walle
They did try for an improved understanding.
They worked for it.
Sometimes silence is a deliberate choice.
No one is yelling or using disrespectful language.
However, those on the receiving end of such silence hear the message:You have ceased to matter.
Youre not worth my time or my attention.
So how do you break the silence in your marriage?
What happens if we start talking and cant work it out?
What happens if I ask my partner whats bothering them and I cant handle the answer?
What happens if I tell my partner whats bothering me and they dont care?
Those fears play into why people stay silent.
Tell your partner whats on your heart.
