Things started out so great.
Maybe he shoots you a friendly text or wants to hang out.
You feel relief, but alsoanxietyand on edge.
Megan Ruth
What if he disappears again?
How can you hang onto him?
Youre on a painful cycle of having hope, getting your hopes crushed, and then having hope again.
Maybe hes having problems at work, maybe hes struggling financially, or maybe hes having family issues.
Dont attempt to force anything out of him.)
Or he may just need to get some perspective on the relationship.
This is just his process.
The sooner you could accept that, the sooner youll free yourself from useless worry and stress.
And the rest of the time… he was never that interested in you, to begin with.
This is especially true of a guy who comes in and out of your life on a loop.
He probably had some level of interest, but not enough.
Chasing after him is not whats going to get him to see you as an amazing one-of-a-kind woman.
Instead, chasing him shows you are insecure and desperate.
Rather thanobsessingover him and what hes thinking and how he feels, focus on yourself.
Focus on finding your own happiness so you arent dependent on him to feel good about yourself.
Accept the situation for what it is.
Dont delude yourself into thinking you have something else.
Most people can recognize the truth when its staring them in the face.
If hes having personal issues, thats one thing and you might usually tell if thats the case.
If hes just not that interested in you … thats a different story.
And most people know when this is the case, they just dont want to admit it.
If he hadtrue feelingsfor you, he wouldnt be behaving this way.
If he really cared about you, you would know it.
Will he change his mind and come back with a renewed and recharged level of interest?
When he no longer feels this pressure and needy vibe, he may feel a gravitational pull toward you.
If he doesnt come back, there isnt much you could do.
You cant badger him into having feelings for you.
You have to accept that some things will never be in your control.
Getting over someone whodoes not love us back isnt easy.
In fact, sometimes being rejected from the start hurts more than a breakup.
2.Realize you are not unworthybecause you dont have someones love.
The plain and simple truth about love is not everyone is a match.
All this really means is you are now free to find someone who is right for you.
Realize that this is idealization.
Another part of the idealization is the dramatization of the entire saga.
This romance is hurting you and wasting your time.
