Its a mixture of everything, with overthinking and anxieties and all.
Its living in fear of being taken advantage of again, emotionally, mentally, physically.
This book has been broken up into sections within each chapter.
Susie Ho
There are some quotes that stood out to me the most, so I included them too.
This is what I got out of it:
Dating should bring you JOY.
19)
Its okay to be single.
Its okay to be in a relationship.
Or, to put it simply: you dont need to be in a relationship so that be happy.
Having crushes is hard but also really, really fun.
…I was under the impression that it was proper to only have one crush at a time.
(Yes, I couldve ghosted, but that also makes me feel weird.)
This doesnt excuse cheating.
Im talking about developing crushes on multiple people when youre not in a committed relationship.
I guess the question is: can we have more than one crush?
I mean, if boys can do it, so can we.
Dont force it.
39)
Were all humans.
We all have attributes that make us lovable.
Were not all perfect and not all of us are evil.
If you like someone, so be it, and if you dont, so be it.
You shouldnt have to continue to like someone just because they like you.
We all want to like someone who likes us back, but it shouldnt be forced.
Should I play hard to get?
I mean, I get it.
Thats fair, but to me, playing games is a big no-no.
I dont like the chase.
Why cant things just be easier?
Actions speak louder than words…
Yet, if someone likes you, they will make that obvious.
You wont have to dissect every text, emoji, gif, or a selfie they send.
You wont have to analyze how often they text you or if they like your photos on Instagram.
How do I know when its a date?
I still dont know…
Were living through an age when a) casual sex is normal and b) smartphones exist.
86)
Sometimes its hard to know if a date is, well, a date.
Or are they just being nice because they want to sleep with me?
Unless its explicitly stated, its pretty unclear the intentions of a date.
Its so prominent and sometimes people can be shady with their intentions.
Date the person you want to be.
I believe there is a lot of joy in that.
Yeah, its like that.
Your partner should inspire you to be greater.
Your partner should motivate you to develop an admirable character.
Theyll inspire you to step outside of your comfort zone.
Romantic friendships are a thing!
This is a friendship where you could theoretically date and you perform dating without actually dating.
Apparently, romantic friendships go back as far as the Renaissance Periodpeople were writing poems about it even then.
Its so much more than having a good conversation.
Its about feelings and who you are when youre single and who you are when youre in a relationship.
Its about understanding that you two are on the same page for what you want and dont want.
Its really so much more than I thought.
