All of us meet perfectly wonderful people with whom we just don’t feel a connection.
Whether its a romantic relationship or a friendship, ending it gracefully is generally a challenge.
There is another way to see this.
Nik Shuliahin
Just because I dont feel connected with someone doesnt mean there is anything wrong with them.
I am not making a judgment about the persons adequacy or worth.
All of us meet perfectly wonderful people with whom we just dont feel a connection.
Yet we just dont connect.
The spark that ignites friendship or romance just doesnt exist.
I dont pretend to understand all the factors that create the connection between two people.
Nik Shuliahin
You are so similar, only to discover a complete lack of connection.
Katie, a client of mine, recently said to me, Everyone said Rick is perfect for me.
I kept thinking that if I just gave it time, I would feel the connection.
But it never happened.
Is it anyones fault that the chemistry or connection isnt there?
There is nothing wrong with either Katie or Rick.
The connection just isnt there for Katie.
She couldnt make it be there.
She ended up saying to Rick, You are a really terrific guy.
Its not your fault its just not there.
Whether or not Rick felt hurt by this is really up to him.
Katie cant take responsibility for how he feels.
His hurt will come from his belief system, not from the fact that Katie broke up with him.
Ending a relationship gracefully means speaking our truth without blame or judgment and not taking responsibility for anothers feelings.
Randi got together with Barb and felt no connection.
In fact, she felt the opposite.
Randi was able to let go of taking responsibility for Barbs feelings if Barb felt hurt by this.
Is there always a way of breaking up or saying no to a relationship without someone getting hurt?
