Finding your inner peace is finding your inner warrior.
You know when people reference knowing something deep down?
They say things like: Im worried, but deep down, I know its going to be okay.
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Or, Im angry at him, but deep down, I know he loves me.
What do you think they are referencing?
Where is deep down?
It isnt shaken by the stressors or fears that the mind wants to offer.
Your thoughts and actions are like stones in the water: they create a ripple effect.
You dont have toforcethe water to be still.
It does it on its own when you stop interrupting it.
The same goes for finding inner peace.
Its not so much something you have to create as it is something you have to return to.
The goal isnt happiness.
Unfortunately, happiness is fickle.
It can lead you to being unhealthily attached to certain achievements, belongings, or specific circumstances.
It can lead you to become dependent on other peoples opinions, or life unfolding in a particular way.
Inner peace, however?
Thats the state in between the scales.
When its your goal, theres no way to lose.
Think about it this way: What do you typically imagine will bring you happiness?
Money, a relationship, a promotion?
What happens when you achieve those things?
Consistently, throughout all of humankind, the answer is the same: you return to your baseline.
What drives us away from inner peace in the first place?
This is important because understanding why we lose it is fundamental in finding it again.
When we grow up, we adapt to our environments.
We adopt the beliefs and ideas of those around us.
We alter our personalities so that we become safer, people we believe cant be hurt by the world.
When we begin to trust our thoughts, we let them inform our feelings.
This becomes a cycle, and ultimately traps most people who arent aware that its happening.
Of course, that doesnt mean that our thoughts are useless.
Why cant people find their inner peace easily?
The answer is thatthey can,most people just arent instructed on how to.
Dr. Stephen Diamond explains it like this: To begin with,the inner child is real.Not literally.
But figuratively, metaphorically real.
Resistance wants to rewrite our personal histories and ensure that our plans materialize.
There is no outer peace because we are not in charge of the circumstances of our lives.
We cannot design the world to our liking or even control our own thoughts and feelings.
If we stake our happiness on things that are temporary, what happens when they appear or disappear?
There goes our happiness.
This truth begs the essential question: Do you want passing happiness or enduring peace?
Every difficult situation you swore you would never get through, or never get over.
Every time you have genuinely felt happy and at peace.
Worrying is an addiction.
Over time, you have begun to convince yourself that worrying = being safe.
This is completely false.
If you believe something will be good, it will be.
It might not look exactly how you imagined, but the outcome will be exactly what you expect.
Finding your inner peace is just connecting to your deepest wisdom.
Its not something you have to create, justify, imagine, or reach for.
Its always within you, its always an option, and its constantly a choice.
You just have to make it.
Your feelings are not always facts.
Your feelings arent predictions.
They are not fortune-telling mechanisms.
They are only reflecting back to you what your current state of mind is.
Remember this: The feeling of peace is the one telling you the truth.
Your feelings arent here to tell you whats going to happen.
Fear is trying to scare you into staying small and keeping safe.
It is a mortal, limited thing.
